The Feminist Rose I was Deprived Of… By: Nicole

The Feminist Rose I was Deprived Of…..


Roses are red, work is blue and they are feminists too

What, feminists?

Yes, feminists and not just any feminists

The feminists that stands out in the crowd

The ones patriarchy wants to control

The ones everyone discriminates against

For they only want to be decriminalized

and understood

and to be accepted like all the others.

Because to discriminate only brings hate

So stop trying to understand them

But accept them, they are only feminists.

After all not just feminists, sex work feminists.


Who are these people?

They are the ones you see on the street

the ones you sit next to on the taxi

the ones you debate against in parliament

the ones whose voices want to be heard

who want to be accepted by the government


Yes, get this in your head

Feminism is coming out, so watch out

They are coming like the force of the Jordan River

They are higher than Mount Everest

And they mean you no harm

all they want is decriminalization

To be accepted by churches


And most of all their families

So make sure that you are sure about who you are

And what you want to be

Because feminism is a journey

It can be lonely


I am a sex work feminist and it’s MY work

Get that in your mind

We are here now, and we aint going nowhere

Just start seeing right now

We only want to be accepted

So stop discriminating against me for what satisfies ME


Who am I?

 I am a rose

Don’t hide me

Don’t make like you don’t see me

I am tired of being sold on the black market

I also want to be admired, like all the others in the garden

Gold gets traded on Wall Street

Even though I don’t deserve to be there, like you say

But God said I am made in his image

Stop depriving me of  my riches


Roses are red

Work is blue

And they are feminists too


I am a feminist.

Sex Work Feminist.


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What Feminism Can Learn from Sex Workers

What Feminism Can Learn from Sex Workers (hyperlink article)

Key Points:

“But Molly a sex work and blogger says she’s selling a service, not herself: “There is nothing more misogynist than implying/stating that I’m selling ‘myself’ when I sell sex. I am a lot more than my vagina and what I do in bed, and I expect feminists to understand that.”

“Not everyone agrees with decriminalization, but everyone — especially feminists — should at least pay attention to how laws against sex work affect the workers themselves. Feminism aims to support women’s self-determination over their work and their bodies, and it shouldn’t swoop in to tell sex workers how to feel about either.”

“Feminism has gotten into trouble in the past when it attempts to speak for (or simply ignores) marginalized women rather than listening when they speak for themselves.”

“Laura Murray, director ofA Kiss For Gabriela, a documentary about a sex worker and activist who ran for congress in Brazil, says that everyone needs to be able to see sex workers “as the protagonists in their own lives.” Too often, non-sex workers instead see them as “as victims who don’t have any control of their lives” or as “completely irresponsible and lost.” But neither is accurate, and in order to understand what they need, feminists and everyone else need to listen to what sex workers actually say.”

Bridging theory & practice: easier said than done……..

Bridging theory practice: Easier said than done........

Every Wednesday I help co-facilitate a webinar on sex work and feminism. Ill be honest its been one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. How do we make this a unilateral and not top down, so that we are learning from one another? How do we make feminism practical? How do we make feminism practical when we can only speak in English and not their mother tongues? How do I explain feminism without the jaded academic jargon yet at the same time how do I unlearn that just because I have an ivy league degree and speak 3 languages doesn’t make me the teacher, that they actually know feminism and that I am simply their to arm them with the english words to articulate how they feel. How do we move feminism from theory into real quantifiable action? How can feminism empower women who are consistently raped, made to feel inferior because of their profession and even their so called feminist sisters silence their agency, their choice and autonomy by claiming that sex work is rape and simply a profession under the guise of patriarchy? I don’t know but we are going to figure this out together! BRIDGING THEORY AND PRACTICE ❤

“I hear you talking about power of woman but what about me as a sex worker?”

Freedom by Noluthando

As a mother of two children I didn’t get freedom.

Instead of getting freedom I get hate.

I hear you talking about power of woman but what about me as a sex worker?

I raised my children alone with that money.

I don’t understand why people judge us without reason.

I am a feminist.

I do all things that women do.

I am a father and I am a mother because I manage to make a better life and feed my children.

You feminists said we are equal but me on my side I still struggle to raise my voice.

Where is the freedom of a sex worker?

People take advantage of us and kill and rape us.

If I die who is gonna raise my children?

The people rape outside but they take them in (arrest) for 1 or 2 days and then we see them again.

I am not a bad person.

I am selling sex, I am not killing anyone

Where is my freedom?

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SWEAT/Sisonke Webinar Participation

SWEAT/Sisonke Webinar Participation

Since the beginning of the Webinar series SWEAT/Sisonke have been actively involved in gaining information and adding the feminism framework into our movement to decriminalise sex work.

As we do feel the series is rooted in a more academic space, during the webinar we have two co-facilitators who analyze concepts discussed such as feminism (s), capitalism, elitism, gender, sex, “social constructions”, and the western gaze to name a few in addition to answering questions. Our goal is to learn across the table and we hope via our blog submissions many will begin to understand how sex work and feminism are interdependent.

Pictured here are the participants and below are a few final comments on the webinar series.

Sandra: ” Today it was very nice with SWEAT and Sisonke members. I learned about feminism. I think in our culture power is controlled by men. Everything that is happening in our community only men are in position. I am a Sex Work Feminist. Feminism with regard to equality for example polygamy”

Leigh: “Western funders still decide what they want us to do because they finance it”

Shameeze: ” I learned that we can work and do stuff together to try and fight against gender violence and sex workers rights”

Nawhaal: “I learned we are all equal and need to stand together as one and speak as one. Their is hope for all.”

Dudu: “As a sex worker how can we work on understanding and engaging with other feminist groups.”

Priscilla: “To me now as a person who knew nothing about feminism, I am now a bit clearer. We need equality, we also need to be treated as women. Gender equality is also very important. I also I need the involvement of Christians because they stereotype us the most.”